I recently deleted a dating app (swipe-based catering to the under-40 Christian crowd) and didn’t really enjoy the experience. The ability to look at “fast facts” under someone’s profile (e.g. age, location, denomination, has/wants kids, views on drinking/smoking/politics, etc.) is a real double-edged sword: it’s helpful to gauge baselin…
I recently deleted a dating app (swipe-based catering to the under-40 Christian crowd) and didn’t really enjoy the experience. The ability to look at “fast facts” under someone’s profile (e.g. age, location, denomination, has/wants kids, views on drinking/smoking/politics, etc.) is a real double-edged sword: it’s helpful to gauge baseline compatibility, but it’s almost too easy to disqualify someone outright as opposed to learning and discussing these things over a few in-person dates. The format seems to take the humanity out of relationship-building, if that makes sense.
I’m also not sure that sort of niche dating app meaningfully improves the dating pool for small-town and rural singles: the majority of profiles I saw were 100+ miles from me; I saw the same ~200-300 profiles a dozen-plus times over 3 months; and had negligible success: 3-4 matches and one video-chat “date.” In fairness, I swiped right on < 10% of profiles, mainly due to distance.
Now that I have some more free time, I’m trying to spend more time out in public and socializing. I’d rather meet someone closer to home and in person, but might look online again in the future.
I recently deleted a dating app (swipe-based catering to the under-40 Christian crowd) and didn’t really enjoy the experience. The ability to look at “fast facts” under someone’s profile (e.g. age, location, denomination, has/wants kids, views on drinking/smoking/politics, etc.) is a real double-edged sword: it’s helpful to gauge baseline compatibility, but it’s almost too easy to disqualify someone outright as opposed to learning and discussing these things over a few in-person dates. The format seems to take the humanity out of relationship-building, if that makes sense.
I’m also not sure that sort of niche dating app meaningfully improves the dating pool for small-town and rural singles: the majority of profiles I saw were 100+ miles from me; I saw the same ~200-300 profiles a dozen-plus times over 3 months; and had negligible success: 3-4 matches and one video-chat “date.” In fairness, I swiped right on < 10% of profiles, mainly due to distance.
Now that I have some more free time, I’m trying to spend more time out in public and socializing. I’d rather meet someone closer to home and in person, but might look online again in the future.
Good luck.