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Duncan's avatar

I'm not sure I agree with this. Rather than being too obsessed with what women are doing, I think men online are obsessed with the wrong areas of female behaviour. The entire red pill space basically concerns itself with female dating behaviour, which is the least problematic area. It seems to be mainly men who are bitter at being ignored on dating apps, while being unwilling to court women in real life. However, the problematic area of female behaviour isn't dating, it is political feminism, and the feminist-driven spread of defacto female quotas in many areas, subsidies for female-only activities and health issues, systematic breaking down of male-spaces by lawfare and shaming and political action, passing of unfair divorce laws etc. At some point, a real open fight by men against political feminism will be required if we are going to save ourselves from literal extinction due to low birthrate and collapse of the family. Most male commentators have absolutely shirked that fight so far, leaving the manosphere to whine about women's romantic expectations.

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Good advice. But we have to think about how to balance it with the criticism of the church's "season of singleness" talk that seems designed to reconcile young people to growing old without ever hunting for a spouse. Your wife isn't going to drop out of the sky.

I think if your singleness is eating at you (and why wouldn't it be?), then by all means invest time and energy into productive behaviors with the aim of eventually finding a wife. But have other interests as well, and recognize the difference between productive wife-hunting and useless self-defeating behaviors, like dwelling on why it's so hard to find a good wife and how the deck is hopelessly stacked against you. Finding a good wife was a non-trivial challenge in the olden days as well (Proverbs 31:10: "Who can find a virtuous woman? For her price is far above rubies.") Aaron correctly identifies that online pity parties like MGTOW aren't worth wasting your time on.

Also agree with the value of finding men's spaces. Society has attacked them, but my life still revolves heavily around them. F3 remains an excellent men's space, and a great alternative to a gym, where IMO there's something unnatural produced by men and women sharing the space.

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